the unkown

it would be unfair of me to say that i have never left someone in the dark.  having not responded to an email, not returned a missed call or changed subjects amid conversation.  the weight of questions comes into play when answering them.  for instance, "how are you" is typically used as a greeting rather than an actual meaningful question of state.  our society has become used to this behavior; jumbling through questions, misguiding conversations, even manipulating sentences to attract a point we're trying to make or get to.  
and all of this can be left to the ignorance or the unimportance we see in such questions.  

the difference in what becomes frustrating is the malice behind keeping someone in the unknown.  holding on to one phrase or word that could change that person's direction.  simple statements that fly from our mouths just as they enter our conscience suddenly are withheld.  i appreciate the notion of holding one's cards close to their chest.  if we always spoke what was on our minds, the world would be a much messier place.  we have been built with filters that stop us from saying certain thoughts.  

however, there comes a time when it is of the utmost importance to bring someone out of the dark, show them the light and allow them to deal with what they then see.  dragging someone around emotionally while they hang on every word waiting for the one answer that they have sought is cruel.  

one simple answer can end all complicated questions.